What to do when you don’t know what to do

Isn’t it funny to think that in today’s life somehow brings confusion, to the point of asking yourself what to do or What am I supposed to do. You’re disappointed because you find yourself tired of doing nothing and being so lifeless? Worry no more, here are 4 easy tips to do when you don’t know what to do.

First, what you should do is to PAUSE! This is the point of realization. You need to understand that time is like a river, it flows non-stop and it never passes the same point twice. Time also never passes the same moment twice. When its wasted it’s wasted. You can never go back and try to change it to make your present different than what it is right now.

But here’s good news, time is always new. It’s never too late to make some differences in your present, just remember the existence of your future. Regret then forget those wasted time, know that the sun still shines.

Second, RECREATE! Create it again. Remember the last time you find yourself doing the things you love. Make your dead dreams alive again.

Doing what you love is the perfect thing to pursue because living means enjoying and enjoying means living life to the full. You can also spend time with your family and friends or travel to places you want to visit. Know your desires so you can know how to start. Example, you want to become a singer? the start practicing or maybe you want to travel to places, start saving. You can always know how to start. You can list down all the things you haven’t done yet. Start with little things.

Third, APPRECIATE! Look back to your previous achievements and appreciate, then let go of them because you are going to make new ones. Start appreciating yourself and see the great value of your life. You’ll begin to realize that you can do more than what you think you can. Fear cannot stand on your way because you are already stepping on it.

Fourth, always believe that YOU CAN! What you believe in matters a lot, it’s powerful. Having a positive mindset brings a positive result while worrying brings stress and stress paralyzes. Stress is actually the cause why you can’t know what you can do. It limits you and might result to depression. So whatever your dreams are, pursue them by believing that you can. Life has more things in store for you. Failure is natural but don’t stay there. When you don’t know what to do, here’s what you can do: PAUSE, RECREATE and APPRECIATE then believe that YOU CAN pursue all your dreams. The secret is this, “Don’t get tired to be inspired”.

Written by: Irish Alonzo

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The Bitter Truth: Why does everyone hate Valentine’s Day

Why does it seems like all single folks hate Valentine’s Day? Why does every time Valentine’s day is fast approaching you’ll hear a lot of rants from bitter people?  This seems to be a growing trend nowadays most especially to the younger generation. But I wonder what makes it different from any other occasions like Christmas, New year or Thanksgiving? Where in fact it’s just a day meant to bring you closer to your loved ones.

Valentine’s Day is actually a day of love but this is not only for couples. Instead of being a day of love, this has become a day for single folks to grumble about how frustrated and lonely they are.

First of all, there are actually a lot of reason to be happy of rather than being jealous or discouraged about celebrating Valentine’s Day as single. Single folks out there have absolutely no reason to be bitter on that day or any other day because you are indeed loved by your family and friends so better stop the pity party. You may not have a perfect Facebook or Instagram- worthy relationship but I know for sure you have your family and friends with you, who loves you better than the love you’re looking for.

Why not just think of all the things people in a relationships deal with every day. Would you enjoy ditching your friends for your significant other? Would you want to take a four hour fight just because you did not immediately reply on his/her message? Would you like the feeling the need to constantly attached to your phone so you can update someone’s every move? or would you just stay calm and wait for God’s perfect time because he’s still busy writing the best love story you’ve been yearning for?

There is more to life than to be in a relationship right now.  So, instead of posting rants on Facebook about your nonexistent love life which is actually yet to come, why not just celebrate Valentine’s Day to show to your family and friends how much they mean to you.

Self pity, frustrations and acrimony is not the right attitude that you should acquire. Beautiful things happen when you distant yourself form negative vibes, it wouldn’t help you anyway. Just surround yourself with happy thoughts and be happy for those people around you.

Rather than complaining about not having a date on valentine’s Day, just think of the element of social obligation to it that can cause a little stress to couples.

First, they need to buy gifts, make reservations then end up trying to enjoy meal at an overcrowded restaurant. While if you’re single, you have nothing to worry about. You could just enjoy watching your favorite TV shows or movies, you could just sit all day and enjoy your coffee while reading your favorite book.  There’s no sense in being upset about being single; it probably won’t last forever.

Complaining about being single shows that you’re placing too much of your happiness in being a relationship. Lewis once said “Don’t let your happiness depend on something you may lose.” Being bitter just because you’re single shows that you should learn to realign your priorities in life.

You should never rely your happiness on relationships, instead focus that happiness to Jesus. Keep your eyes on Jesus because he never lost sight of where he was headed. His love is greater than your junk.

You don’t need to rush things looking for a perfect match. Enjoy being single because when the perfect time comes you’ll surely miss everything about it. So, better not be bitter on Valentine’s Day or any other day. Think of the sweeter side rather than the bitter one. Time will surely come when you no longer need to worry about Valentine’s Day but for now, enjoy it and be happy for other people.

Win her heart back!

Nakakalungkot isipin na sa dami ng magagandang alaala na nabuo niyo bilang magkasintahan ay maglalaho, dahil lang sa isang pagkakamaling nagawa. Kung pwede lang sana gawin itong right minus wrong, para sa isang pagkakamali na nagawa ay isang magandang alaala ang mabubura. Pero walang ganun. Ang relasyon ay parang gusali at ang pundasyon naman nito ay tiwala (trust) sa isa’t isa. Kapag natibag ito, lahat ng mga pinaghirapan niyo at mga masasayang alaala ay masasama sa pagguho. Ano nga ba ang maaari kong gawin para maibalik ko ang nasira naming relasyon?

Una, patawarin mo muna sarili mo. Paano mo mapapatawad ng ibang tao kung ang sarili mo nga ay hindi mo kayang patawarin? Ito kasi ang isa sa mga dahilan kung bakit lumalayo ang isang tao sa kanilang kasintahan na kanilang nasaktan. Nakokonsensya sila sa kanilang nagawa at patuloy parin silang naninirahan sa past. Tandaan, Wag mo gawing hadlang ang nakalipas para ihinto mo ang nasayang niyong relasyon. Kung mahal mo talaga siya, gumawa ka ng paraan. Wag ka magmukmok diyan sa gilid na parang talunan. Laban kapatid!

Kung napatawad mo na ang iyong sarili, malamang ready ka na sa pangalawang hakbang. Ang pangalawang hakbang na kailangan mong gawin ay ligawan siya ulit. Pero ang pangliligaw na ito ay kailangan mo talagang paghirapan. Ibuhos mo ang lahat ng makakaya (effort) mo para ipakita mo sa kanya na mahal na mahal mo parin siya. Naalala mo yung sinabi ko na ang relasyon ay parang gusali? Kailangan mo ulit ito mabuo ng paunti-unti, hanggang sa bumalik ang dati niyang ganda.

Pangatlo. Normal lang yan na pagsungitan ka at mareject ka sa pagsuyo mo sa kanya. Kailangan mo lang ng mahabang pasensya. Kung may mga salita man siyang lagging sinasabi sayo, tulad ng- “Please, convince me more”, “Maghanap ka nalang ng iba mong lolokohin” at ito pa “Patunayan mo pa sakin kung talagang sincere ka, dahil ayaw ko nang masaktan”! Tama ba mga girls?

Pang-apat. Wag kang susuko! Kahit ano mang rejections ang ginagawa niya sayo, as long as wala pang nagpapasaya sa kanyang iba, laban lang ng laban! Wag mo hahayaan na masayang lahat ng effort mo at mawala ang taong mahal mo. Eto na ang tamang panahon para maipakita mo sa kanya na pinagsisihan mo na ang iyong maling nagawa. Huwag kang panghinaan ng loob, mahal ka parin niyan hindi niya lang masabi dahil kailangan pa niya ng proof at sapat na rason kung bakit niya ibabalik ang nasira niyang tiwala sayo. Be patient and time will come, Maipapanalo mo ulit siya.

Pang-lima. Oh ayan, lumambot na ang puso niya sayo at pinatawad ka na niya. Alam mo kung anong sunod? Ipagpatuloy mo lang ang pangliligaw sa kanya. Pagandahin nang pagandahin mo lang ang inyong relasyon. Panatiliin itong mainit dahil ang relasyon ay parang kape, kapag hindi na ito mainit, hindi na siya masarap inumin.

Pang-anim! Oo di pa ako tapos! Para iwas temptasyon at para mapanatilihing matibay ang pagmamahal niyo sa isa’t isa. Kailangan niyong ipagitna ang Panginoon sa inyong relasyon. Siya ang iyong magsisilbing gabay tungo sa maganda at masayang buhay.

Isinulat ni: Cladgedon Argawanon